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Finding Myself in the Dayroom

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This next story is a raw and honest account. It takes you inside a mental health hospital dayroom. Experience the struggles, isolation, and tiny glimmers of hope through the eyes of one young man as he navigates his journey to healing. His story may resonate with anyone facing mental health challenges or supporting loved ones on this difficult path.

The Shattering

When my marriage broke up, it wasn’t the only thing that went to pieces. I had been married for twenty-four years, known her for twenty-seven, and it was like looking in a mirror and seeing someone else… Everything was either different or gone… I mean everything was gone… even me.

You eat if you can eat, you sleep if you can sleep. You take your medication, you do a jigsaw puzzle if you can concentrate long enough.

Safe Haven

The pain does not go away, but it is not compounded by everyday stuff, the crap you can’t handle. That’s handled for you, or you just plain forget it. You’re left alone mostly. Some of the inmates resent this, and you can hear them asking where’s the help for me, me, me? But I was satisfied to be there out of the game for a while,.. safe.

The first few days were nothing, just getting used to being there. There wasn’t much to do, but then there wasn’t much I wanted to do… It was safe. After a while, I seemed to suddenly return from wherever it was I’d been, and I started to take notice.

Noticing Others

I noticed a short solid-looking girl with reddish hair, and a trellis of scars on her forearms, I noticed a dark, thin woman whose fingers writhed like mating worms. I noticed a tall spiky-haired man with glasses, who seemed to laugh a lot, and went for cigarettes and papers, every morning.

Later I would know them as Joanne, Mary, and Paul. I noticed a whip-thin blonde, who walked silently, and moved as though she were scared her head would fall off. She was upright, and moved with a delicacy and a grace that may have been inborn, or may have been due to her medication.

A Glimpse into Lee’s World

She looked sad and beautiful to me. She did not do much or say much either. She had a look of Chris Everet, blue eyes, and dyed blonde hair. Her eyes were hard. to look whose name was Chris. Lee was on “close”, accompanied, supervised, overseen, even when she was asleep. I’d learned that Lee was a self-harmer.

There’s a lot of tittle-tattle in those wards, not much else to do, I was told that Lee’s high neckline and long sleeves hid appalling scars. Maybe they did I never saw them. She spoke to me once, for about twenty minutes I can’t remember what we talked about, but I do remember one thing she said I was nice.

The last time I saw Lee was at visiting time. I never had visitors. It’s too complicated to explain why I just didn’t. Or something, and sitting on the husband’s knee, is their kid, a pink little girl in her best party frock, come to see her Mam. Nice?… Family support?… Not really.

The Cycle of Addiction

Every morning Lee would walk into the day room, carrying a cup of tea, fold herself into a bony zed in an armchair and begin to smoke. She smoked heavily nearly all of us did, even the staff. When I went in I was a non-smoker of four years standing. When I came out after a month I was on sixty a day.

A Visit from Home

Hubby ranted, Lee’s Mam wheedled, auntie sat with a mouth puckered with disapproval. Dad just sat and looked perplexed, and so it went, on and on the ranting the wheedling, the demands, the questions. Why didn’t she pull herself together?… What did she have to be depressed about?… She had a good man… He was a good worker… Never wanted for nowt (anything). Everything to live for. Did she realize what the Lad was going through, working and bringing up the bairn? Aye, (now you know) and what was it doing to the poor bairn? She’s only a kiddie. Lee sat behind a table, smoked, drank her tea, didn’t speak.

The little girl in her party dress, sensing the heat of the words started to whine. Lee seemed to get slower, more delicate, more graceful, as they tortured her. As they pulled off her butterfly wings, stuck pins in her eyes, and ripped off her blue denim legs, I watched. Her eyes seemed to be getting bigger, brighter, defined by her unshed tears.

Lee Unravels

Chris her nurse sitting by her elbow, reached out. She was too late. The table hit Mam across the shins, Lee’s cup hit hubby on the shoulder. Lee’s voice usually soft, was hard and rich, rasping from too many cigarettes, and too much rage… “Do you think I want this? Think I’m enjoying it? Do you think I want to be here? Do you? You stupid pack of b……. Do you?” Uproar, tears.

Image by Jill Wellington from Pixabay

Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay


Author: Bruce Graeme McBeth. It may not be reproduced in any form. “© Bruce Graeme McBeth, All Rights Retained by The Author”.

Note: Paragraph headers only added to story for clarity.

The author of this story gave Medibolism.com, now known as Quill And Tales, express permission to publish their work on-line. The story has faithfully been re-typed for this page (shahd 2024).

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